M is for Marriage

M is for Marriage(one man and one woman)
In just a few weeks, my husband and I will celebrate our 22nd anniversary. It’s not always been easy. There have been some days when we’ve both wanted to walk away. But we’re committed to each other long term. And that’s one of the things a good marriage takes–commitment.
Everyone who says that it’s a 50/50 give and take is wrong. Fifty percent of your effort is not enough. You have to give your all and be willing to give up the same in order to make it work.
Is this always easy? Absolutely not. Mostly it’s really hard.
We’re all selfish creatures. We want our own way. We want what we want, when we want it and how we want it.
Many marriages don’t survive because of this selfish attitude.
We need to learn to give 100% of ourselves all of the time. I’m still learning.
Communication between both parties is vital. You must express what you’re feeling, but you also have to listen without becoming defensive.
Remember all of the verses in the Bible that compare our relationship with the Lord to a marriage relationship. The whole of the book of Song of Solomon, Matthew 25:1-13, portions of Revelation, among others.
I could go on and on, but I’ll stop here.
What is one piece of advice that has helped your marriage the most?
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5 thoughts on “M is for Marriage

  1. Ha ha! Ditto what Diana said! My grandpa, bless his heart, leaned over and whispered that sage advice in my ear during my wedding reception. I’ve never forgotten it, and I’m still married to my high school sweetheart! We also celebrated 22 years this year, Ginger!

  2. Love is a decision–an action–not a feeling. I told my kids (who now have been married almost 9 years, and 6 years respectively) that a key to keeping a marriage (we’re on 34 years) going is simply deciding to. If you believe that the only way out is through, it changes one’s mind set completely. When you don’t have the option of playing the “I don’t like you so I’ll leave” card, you decide to make things better. Yes, there are reasons for divorce–we and our kids don’t have those reasons!

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