I’m writing this post before Monday at 10am. hehe
Today’s post is mostly for moms, but even if you’re not a mom, you know one. If you think this post would help her, share the link.
Things I’ve done as a mom that I don’t regret:
- being tough – the nurturer in us wants to be merciful and let our child(ren) get away with not doing things “quite” right, but that doesn’t help them – depending on age, of course.
- not counting – I once heard, “Delayed obedience is disobedience.” If my child did not obey, there were consequences. Sometimes I would tell them a second time, but I did not EVER count, waiting for them to obey.
- following up on my threats – ask either of my children, and they’ll tell you that Mom meant what she said. If I threatened a spanking for something, and they disobeyed, they got the spanking. If they acted up in the store, they most definitely did NOT get a toy.
- teaching my children to fold and put away their own clothes – do they always do it? No, but they know how.
- making them do chores – every single one of my children can do dishes, sweep a floor, run a vacuum, dust, clean the bathroom, etc. Life lessons. Unless you’re rich, a maid isn’t following behind you cleaning up your messes.
- saying no
- teaching them that life isn’t fair
- expecting more of them than they think they can accomplish
- taking one of my sons to a psychiatrist and having him tested for ADD, and subsequently putting him on drugs–it has been a night and day change in him (not for everyone, but worked for us)
- teaching them that they aren’t owed anything, and they have to work to get things
- making them pay for things (or wait to buy things) (see above) – old enough to have a job? you’re paying for your gas, your fun, your phone. Granted, we pay for the 15 year old’s phone, but she’ll be getting the bill in another month(she’ll be 16). We do pay car insurance, but if they want a car of their own (not communal), they have to buy it.
- loving them
- having them–I wouldn’t send one of them back. EVER.
- spending time talking to them about life, even if they’re reluctant ‘cuz I’m mom
- playing games with them
- smiling, hugging, and telling them I love them
- homeschooling – one of the hardest things and yet the most fulfilling. It’s not for everyone, but for me, there wasn’t another option
If you’re a mom, what is one thing you don’t regret?